If you are facing a major decision, you probably believe that clarity is the prerequisite, that once you have thought hard enough, weighed enough options, and gathered enough information, the right path will finally become visible. Seeking clarity before a major decision is not only reasonable, it is necessary. The problem arises when the standard shifts from sufficient clarity to complete certainty. That level of clarity rarely arrives before a decision. For most people, it is what follows one.
When waiting for certainty becomes the problem
I have been working with a client recently who wanted to change career. He came to coaching after months of considering and overthinking possibilities, still finding himself stuck in a job that drained all his energy and for which he could no longer see purpose or impact. Those months of overthinking had produced something valuable: he had built an excellent overview of the possibilities and the job market. What kept him stuck was that he was waiting for 100% clarity before making a move. He wanted certainty.
A critical part of our work together consisted of helping him accept that this level of clarity does not exist before a decision is made. It arrives only afterwards, sometimes months later. That shift gave him the courage to make the leap.
Looking back, my client had almost certainly made his decision long before he came to coaching. But he was waiting for a signal that rarely exists, and by doing so he spent months in deep dissatisfaction at work, which led to burnout, anxiety, and repercussions that began to affect his personal life.
You have probably already decided
My client’s experience is not unusual. Research suggests that many people facing major decisions have already made their choice long before they consciously acknowledge it.
In a well known empirical study, economist Steven Levitt asked participants facing complex life dilemmas to flip a coin to determine whether or not to make a significant change. Following up with participants over subsequent months, Levitt found that those whose coin toss had directed them toward action were more likely to make the change and reported being significantly happier than those who had carried on as before.
The coin toss itself was unlikely to have determined their choices. Just like my client, the participants had already made their decision long before the coin toss. What the coin gave them was permission to act on a direction they had likely already been moving toward. Levitt concluded: “whenever you cannot decide what you should do, choose the action that represents a change, rather than continuing the status quo.”
When thinking stops working, action starts
Uncertainty about an unfamiliar path rarely resolves fully through thinking alone. When you are considering something genuinely new, no amount of research or reflection can give you a complete picture, because the most important information only becomes available through experience itself.
This does not mean reflection has no value. It means there is a point at which additional thinking stops generating new insight and starts compounding the same loop. That is the moment when small actions become more useful than further deliberation.
With my client, we identified small, low-stakes steps that could generate real information, having conversations with people already working in the field he was considering, testing his assumptions against lived experience rather than mental simulation. Each step brought him closer to the level of certainty he needed, not by resolving the uncertainty in advance, but by building evidence through action (if this sounds familiar, it connects directly to the idea of micro-experiments I explored in my first blog).
How long does post-decision clarity take?
The honest answer is that it varies considerably from person to person and decision to decision.
For some, clarity comes relatively quickly. The renewed sense of purpose, the relief of leaving behind what was no longer working, these become strong enough internal signals to confirm that the decision was right. The uncertainty dissolves fairly rapidly once the new reality begins to take shape.
For others, including my client, it takes longer. A significant career change often involves a temporary disruption of identity, the loss of a professional self that was familiar and well-defined, even if it was no longer fulfilling. That disruption can momentarily produce doubt, a quiet questioning of whether the right decision was made. This is normal, and it is important not to misread it as evidence that the decision was wrong.
It is also worth noting that if you are prone to what psychologists call counterfactual thinking, the tendency to dwell on what might have been, post-decision clarity may take longer to consolidate. The habit of imagining alternative paths does not disappear the moment a decision is made. But it does tend to quieten as the new reality builds its own momentum.
The more reliable internal signal is not the absence of doubt. It is the absence of regret over time. My client experienced considerable adjustment in his new role, but he never looked back and wished he had stayed. That absence of regret was what ultimately gave him his 100% clarity, not before the decision, but gradually, through living it.
If clarity comes after, stop waiting for it before
If 100% clarity requires lived experience to fully arrive, it was never going to be available in advance. This is not however an argument for acting with too little reflection. Thinking carefully before a major decision is necessary. The question is how long you continue waiting once that reflection has run its course. And how you make those reflections.
Approaching a major decision from multiple dimensions, not just a strategic list of pros and cons, ensures the quality of the decision-making process, the only part of the process you actually control. A company can restructure months after you join. A market can shift. What remains within your control is the quality of the process that led you there. A decision made with genuine, multidimensional reflection is one you can look back on without regret, regardless of how circumstances unfold. And that absence of regret, as we have seen, is often where your 100% clarity finally lives.
This is the approach at the heart of my work with clients, and the reason I developed the 5D Framework, a methodology that evaluates complex decisions across distinct dimensions to ensure that when you make your move, you have genuinely considered it as a whole.
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About the author
Dr Giulia Galli. An accredited coach, chartered psychologist, and academic neuroscientist with twenty years of experience in understanding people’s thinking, decisions and behaviour. You can read more about my story and my approach to coaching here.
